Is There Always a Silver Lining?

It wasn’t an easy decision. I love playing tennis and I love the gals I play with. Unfortunately tennis DOES NOT like my knee. I am waiting for results of an MRI to see if surgery could be a solution for me. For months I have played, iced, elevated and limped just to start the cycle again. This morning I came to the conclusion that I need to stop playing tennis. It isn’t easy to give up things we love.


I have always been very active. Mostly I have engaged in sports. Throughout the years, the pounding on my body has caused me to modify my #lifestyle. I gave up skiing years ago. I now walk instead of run. I sold my bicycle and spend more time swimming. Because exercise and competitive sports are important to me, I always find something to fill the void.

When I am feeling down, I take a walk. On my walks I think about my life and come to terms with the changes that accompany the aging process. So when a bird decided to crap on my favorite sweatshirt this evening, I literally became unglued. After yelling obscenities at this flying toilet, I decided to put my situation into perspective. It is, after all, what I do. I am always looking for the silver lining.


While I was nurturing my pity party, I started to focus on how this could have been worse. This was not easy as I was a mile away from home with dozens of trees to navigate. My thoughts: I could have been wearing a short-sleeved shirt. The bird could have aimed toward my head, and so on.


Most of us will experience changes during our lifetime. Loss is a part of life. This pertains to the people and pets that we love, as well as the activities we enjoy. I have a friend who is losing her eyesight and no longer drives. I know someone else who recently had a stroke and now relies on the aid of a walker.

My days spent downhill skiing and participating in 10K runs will be lived through pictures I have and memories I have amassed. The ladies I met while playing tennis have become new friends even though we no longer meet on the court.

There is no question that if we live long enough we will need to adjust and accept certain #limitations, hopefully with #grace. It is most important that we continue to learn, grow and find new activities to enjoy with passion. Whether gardening, reading, leisurely walks, games with friends or catching a movie; I am certain that I will continue to explore new activities.

Think about your own life. Do you spend your time depressed over what you don’t have or have lost? Try accepting this: Change can be interesting and even enjoyable when you take a different path, even if that path wasn’t your intention.


Go find the silver lining in your life. It is what I intend to do in mine!

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10 thoughts on “Is There Always a Silver Lining?

  1. Carol Hessler says:

    Unfortunately not every cloud has a silver lining. Look at your friend who is losing her
    eyesight. Where is her silver lining ? Sometimes in life we just have to learn acceptance.
    Acceptance at losing a loved one, though it is part of life, is a sad reality.

  2. Roni says:

    You are right. There isn’t always a silver lining. That is why it is important to find them when we can. And when we do, make the most of what we have while we have it. Life changes on a dime. When we can’t find the silver lining perhaps focusing on other areas of our lives can give us some measure of pleasure and comfort. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It means a lot to me.

  3. Gail says:

    My Dear Friend Roni,
    You write so beautifully, with always so much wealth of understanding and guidance and intelligence. Through the years you certainly were an athletic girl – whether it was hiking, running, playing paddle ball at the beach, tennis etc etc and you found away of acceptance as one ages, and you look at it as things could always be worse.
    Love you

  4. Roni says:

    If anyone would know it is you Gail. We do go way back. Thank you for supporting my writing and taking the time to share your thoughts. I truly believe we all have the internal tools to aid us in living a better life. Some play wheel chair basketball, some ski on one leg and so on. We just need to be realistic and never, never throw in the towel.

    Love you back!

  5. laurence kantor says:

    Hi Roni,

    I love your messages.
    Just got your book.
    Looking forward to it.
    Sorry you have knee problems.
    I’ve had great success with “prolo therapy” (It’s like all-natural cortisone).
    Check out Dr. Andrew Kochan in Sherman Oaks.
    He’s a master at it.
    All the Best,
    “Lucky” Larry

  6. Roni says:


    Please let me know your thoughts on my book, I love getting the male perspective. Perhaps we can grab a bite in the near future and I can autograph your copy if you bought the printed version. Thanks for the tip regarding my knee. I am always searching for new ways to keep activities going. Hope life is treating you well.


  7. Eileen says:

    Dear Roni
    I hope your knee feels better soon. Yes aging is really not a party. One broken elbow and two cataract surgerys this month. Fell for no reason the other night. wtf. Look in mirror and don’t know that lady.
    I just thank God for all that is good and
    enjoy what is beautiful in my life and there is a lot. 💕

  8. Roni says:

    I think it was Bette Midler who said, “Getting old is not for sissies.” My blog was not so much about aging but trying to find the positives in our lives when ever possible. It helps balance the times when we can’t find the silver lining. Take care of yourself Eileen. Thanks for your love and support.

  9. Marti Moray says:

    Hi Roni. Coincidence – I hurt my knee the day before Syd’s wedding. I have been waiting for it
    to improve but it’s been going the other way. Will make an appointment tomorrow. Miss my

  10. Roni says:

    I was there. Get it checked out. Perhaps you need a cortisone shot. Good luck and let me know. Thanks for following. Miss you girl!

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