I have always felt that the deeper the love, the harder the loss. These words bring me little comfort at this moment, as I recently said good-bye to my beautiful beagle, Roxie. She was barely 8 weeks old, 15 years ago when I fell head-over-heels in love with her.


For anyone who has lost a family pet; sibling; parent; friend; child or spouse, no amount of words can make up for the hole that is left in our hearts. The comforting words and support I have received is overwhelming and, to a degree, helpful. I am also well aware that no one gets away in this life without experiencing loss.

Memories, pictures and funny stories are all that’s left. These also bring some comfort. However; it is the physical presence that cannot be replaced, substituted or conjured up. My grandmother, who I adored, passed away over 33 years ago, and I still miss her warm smile, loving arms and stuffed cabbage to this day.

Life can change on a dime. Life cannot be taken for granted. No one gets a crystal ball letting him or her know when the last good-bye, kiss, or hug is truly the last. Knowing this we can let the people in our lives know how much they truly mean to us. We can hold our loved ones closer, and use our words and actions to love and NOT to hurt.


Living life waiting to lose someone is NOT the answer. However be aware that life is a precious gift that should be treasured and nurtured. My suggestion is to err on the side of taking too many pictures and using many expressions of love and caring.

At the end of your journey, I promise it won’t be the money you have earned, the toys you have amassed or even the trips you have taken that will bring you the most joy. It will be the people you dined with, laughed with and cried with that will be a measure of your life. I include in this group, our furry friends who we are fortunate enough to care for, love and be loved by for such a short period of time.   Enrich their lives the way they enrich yours. Give them the type of love they give you…UNCONDITIONAL!

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4 thoughts on “HOW TO DEAL WITH LOSS.

  1. Sue Cotton says:

    Roni, That was right on point. I can say I have no regrets in reguards to how Larry and I treated our Okie. She was crowned a little princess the day we got herband lived her life never knowing anything but kindness and love. In return we got her unconditional love and loyalty. I will for the rest of my days love her memories. I do wish I had more pictures of her.

  2. Roni Kugler says:

    You are well-aware of having to move on from tremendous loss which I know all too well. I guess if it was easy to do then the loss of that person or family pet couldn’t have meant that much. Enjoy the newest member of your four-legged family. Thanks for your thoughts Sue.

  3. Kat says:

    All I can say is I love you and thank you for your friendship. And yes you were on point and as predicted I shed some tears. For the loss of grandparents, cousins, my dad, dear friends, and all my animals over the years . Roxie was blessed to have you and now rests on the wings of an angel….

  4. Roni says:

    Thanks Kat. You always know the right thing to say. And, you are always there for me when I need a non-judgmental, loving shoulder. Thanks for being my friend. And you too, enjoy the newest member of your furry family. Can’t wait to meet her.

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