How Do I Avoid Having Too Many Regrets When My Life Is Almost Over?

Do you ever feel like you are constantly taking two steps forward just to take one step back? Or even worse, do you find yourself taking two steps forward only to trip on the one step back? Does it seem like every time you save some money, the car breaks down or you need dental work?


Well, I can relate. We all have periods when we struggle and wonder when will we get a break. The reality is that life is cyclic and most of us will experience successes and setbacks on a semi-regular basis. I truly believe this is why it is so important to really appreciate the good times when they happen. And why it is so important to make as many wonderful memories as we can.

We all struggle to prioritize our time, our money and all the other various resources that we have. Too often we choose to attend a funeral because it is the right thing to do, but we have a hard time spending our money and taking time off for an out-of-state wedding, graduation, or family vacation.

I am certainly not advocating going into debt when you can’t pay the electricity bill. However, if there is a way to plan, save and be creative to make wonderful memories, I really advise you do so.

My new criteria for deciding whether I say yes or whether I say no to the things that seem out of reach for me are the following:

  1. When I am on my deathbed will I regret having made the decisions that I did?

That’s right, there is only one criteria that I will ask myself. I know proper English dictates that if you have a 1 there needs to be a 2. In this case, I disagree.

Family. Friends. People close to your heart. Money. Trips. Possessions. We all make choices when deciding what is important to us. When all is said and done, when you are lying on your deathbed, will you be thinking about the cars you owned and the toys you had? Or will you be picturing your family times and vacation times that you shared with others?

Check in with yourself today to see if you are making the choices that will allow you to be at peace with yourself when you are faced with your own mortality.


In my upcoming book, 12 Ways To Discover What Makes You Tick, I give examples and exercises in several chapters concerning counting your blessings and where to get your inspiration.

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2 thoughts on “How Do I Avoid Having Too Many Regrets When My Life Is Almost Over?

  1. Nancy stern says:

    All we are taking with us are memories. I choose to make as many happy ones as possible. Like you, I am amazed at the people who don’t find the time /funds to show up for the living but make it for the funeral. Maybe the deceased does really know you’re there maybe not….. I am not taking any chances….. See you soon

  2. Roni says:

    We don’t attend funerals for the deceased. We go to support those who are mourning. Life is a series of choices. At the end of our days we all will be faced with the decisions we made. Hopefully there will be many more good ones than ones with regrets. Thanks for your feedback. Always heard and appreciated.

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