My dad was a man of many expressions. We have this in common. Lately I have been thinking of two that he frequently used. One was, “When Mike says something you can take it to the bank.” The other was, “When Ben shakes my hand I have to count my fingers.”


When you tell someone they can count on you, can they? When you give your word that you will pay back a loan, do you, or do they have to chase you for repayment? When you offer to help someone work on a project, do you show up, or do they have to call you to remind you when to come over?   Do your friends eventually give up on you when they realize your word means nothing?

Some people have intentions to honor their words. Others seem to say what they think someone else wants to hear. And yet others find it easier to say yes now and make up excuses later. If you fall into these categories and you think other people are fooled, think again. It doesn’t take long for someone to learn who is trustworthy.

I believe there are many things we can’t control in our world. One of the things we can control is what comes out of our mouth. Unless someone is holding a gun to your head, you are responsible for your words.


Another expression I heard while growing up is, “If you can count on one hand the real friends you have you are lucky.” Decades later I still don’t understand why there are so few people that honor their word and commitments.

When you look at your friends do you know who will be there for you? When your friends look at you do they consider you trustworthy?

For me, I’d like to think my friends and family find me reliable. If I say I will be there, they know I will. We all have expectations regarding the definition of a good friend.   After all, not everyone has the same standards.

When it comes down to it, ‘our word is our bond’. Although this is an old-fashioned expression the meaning is contemporary, as you are assuring someone that your promise will be kept. Isn’t that, after all, what you would expect from others? In researching the top values most parents want to pass along to their children, commitment and belief in others are at the top of the list.

Father and son (8-10) holding hands, close-up

Children learn not from our words, but from our actions. Think about this the next time you make a promise. Integrity and honoring our commitments should be the standard, NOT the exception. What do you think?

Make 2017 the year to make positive changes by becoming someone that you respect and would choose for a friend!

Aren’t you worth investing a few dollars in order to make healthy changes that will ultimately give you the perspective needed to improve your interpersonal relationships? You have much to gain and little to lose!

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2 thoughts on “DO YOU HONOR YOUR WORD?

  1. laurence kantor says:

    Love your Blog, Roni.
    I enjoy stories about your Dad.
    I remember him fondly.
    Apparently your Dad and mine both taught us about being a person of your word.
    I take pride in the fact that I can be believed and counted upon. My word is my bond.

    All the Best!

  2. Roni says:

    Thank you for your support and feed-back Larry. Maybe it was that generation. The moral compass seems to be cracked. We all need to do better by the next generation by taking a hard look at the messages we convey.

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