I have always admired people who take a stand when they have been victimized. I have always wondered why so many people speak up ONLY after a group has paved the way. On some level I understand the fear of not being believed. There is no question that fighting an institution or system is (at best) time consuming and frustrating. Whether it is the church, gymnastic coaches, or powerful people in positions of authority, it is NOT OKAY to manipulate, threaten, or blackball simply because you can.
Taking this a step further, what about the ordinary person who has been scammed? What about the spouse whose partner cashed in the insurance policies to gamble? What about the friend who borrowed money? These people should also be called out and held accountable for their actions.
There was a time in our history when people who committed crimes wore a sign around their necks for everyone to see. Public shaming was part of letting others know not to be fooled by these people. There was a famous deli in New York in the 50’s that many movie stars frequented. These stars felt they were above paying for their bill. After the owner tried countless times to collect his money, he chose to put a sign in the window with the names and amounts owed for everyone to see. It did NOT take long for these accounts to be paid off.
Why is it commonplace for victims to keep the names of their tormentors a secret? Why aren’t we using social media and word of mouth so others are NOT put in the same position? People who molest children or rape women have histories of repeat offenses. Perhaps if more people spoke up sooner and louder, others would be saved similar fates.
Personally, I think we all need to be good stewards of our friends, family, neighbors and society in general. Let’s stop passively allowing others to continue victimizing simply because it could be unpleasant to take the necessary steps to expose their behavior. I am a firm believer that all evil needs to prevail is for good men and women to do nothing!
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