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Why Would I Buy A Book About Me?

Life is a gift. It is fragile and it is short. Take the time to know yourself. We spend much of our early life in school learning to read, conquer math and study history.

We then learn a job, how to maintain our car, operate our electronic devices and various other tasks required to get along in our world.

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How much time do you take to really get to know yourself? To understand how you ‘tick’? Along with knowing yourself, how much time do you take to really understand others and learn how they ‘tick’? Perhaps if you make this an integral part of your life, you will learn from both your successes and your failures. You will become more aware, and understand why you repeat your mistakes without taking responsibility for some of your choices.

I have found that if you take time to really get to know yourself and the world in which you live, your life will be more fulfilling and give you the happiness and peace that you truly want and deserve.

For a small investment, my book, 12 Ways To Discover What Makes You Tick, could be just what you need to start the journey towards making decisions that you can feel good about.

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Isn’t it time you invested in yourself?

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How Can I Motivate Myself?

Another year has begun and just a few weeks into it I wonder how many people have made resolutions. I also wonder how many resolutions have been broken.

 

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Why is it so difficult to make a plan and then stick to it? Some reasons could be the plan could be unrealistic. Or although a person feels they should make changes, in reality they really don’t want to. Or perhaps they simply don’t want to do the work needed to make the necessary changes.

Whatever the reasons, history has pretty much shown that real change comes from slowly altering behavior. It is crucial to then reinforce it until the new behavior becomes the norm and NOT the exception.

My sister-in-law Nancy just got a fit bit (This is a device worn on the wrist that tracks a person’s steps throughout the day.) I have worn one for several months. I am a bit shy of the goals I have set for myself, and I tend to have problems motivating myself to do more. With the challenge from Nancy, I now find myself walking those extra steps and taking the time to work out. The reason: I know she can look at my progress and I can see hers. Yes, I accepted the challenge.

Recently I mentioned to a friend that I was starting to walk the treadmill. After we talked, she became motivated and has started working out. We go to the gym together and we go alone. We have given each other that much needed extra boost.

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Peer pressure has often been looked upon as negative: drinking, smoking bad behavior is demonstrated when following the wrong people. Peer pressure can be beneficial when we observe those around us doing healthy and positive things for themselves. Hopefully it motivates us be our best selves.

So whether you want to drop a few pounds, clean out your closets, go back to school or change your career, determine what motivates you. Consider joining a class with a friend. Ask a family member to help jump-start you regarding a chore. Offer to donate time to help someone you know who could use the support.

My dad used to say, “Misery loves company”, so get a buddy involved. Don’t wait for a magical date or day to make improvements in your life. Call a friend and make a plan. Chances are, if you agree to meet with someone you will actually show up.

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As far as my sister-in-law who takes more steps before I get out of bed is concerned, I don’t plan on competing with her. What I plan on doing is giving each day my best effort. This way I don’t set myself up for failure.

My parting thoughts: Be realistic about your goals; don’t let a bad day define your objectives, and remember these are things you have decided are important to you. Think about that.

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My book 12 Ways To Discover What Makes You Tick will be available to buy on Amazon.com April 8th. With easy to use exercises and examples everyday challenges can be met with success.

Do New Year Resolutions Really Work?

Before summer even ended, I noticed that stores had already put up displays for Halloween and Thanksgiving. Now, barely into October, I see advertisements for Christmas. No wonder the months and years fly by.

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This got me thinking about all of the people who plan on waiting until the first of January to implement the New Year resolutions that they have put off for yet another year. The diet. More exercise. Cleaning out the garage. Going back to school. Being nicer. Volunteering time at shelters. And so the list continues.

I found myself going over a blog that I wrote two years ago on this very subject. It dawned on me that making and then breaking, New Year resolutions is actually a lifestyle. Those who truly make the changes they desire in their lives really don’t need a magical date. The ones who actually achieve their goals do it quietly by making small and large changes on a daily basis throughout the year.

Is there a reason you are putting off your dreams and wishes for another two and a half months? If you can relate to the following blog that I wrote over two years ago and you are laughing, I challenge you to start today. Make a list of the things you would like to change. Hold up a mirror and ask yourself what it will take to attain your goals. Then find a way to make it happen.

I published the following blog in December, 2013.

The accepted definition of insanity is ‘doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result”. I would venture to say that if this were really true, we would all fall under the insanity definition at some point in our lives.

I consider myself relatively rational, pretty much grounded, fairly pragmatic, understanding and for the most part accepting of other people’s points of views and visions.

To my friends who are now screaming, “ARE YOU KIDDING”? I did use words like ‘relatively’, ‘fairly’, and, ‘for the most part’.

So, with this in mind, I do have to wonder why year after year and decade after decade I hear the same promises, and New Year resolutions from the people in my life. To say that I am not guilty of this myself would not be entirely truthful.

I haven’t always known what is good for me, but I have pretty much always known what isn’t. I haven’t always known what works for me, but I have pretty much always known what doesn’t.

So my thoughts at this moment as I look at the end of yet another year and the beginning of a new one are: 

  1. What changes will I make?
  2. What will I continue to put up with?
  3. And what will next year bring to my family, my friends and me?

As another year now comes to an end may your hopes stay high and your dreams be realized. If you want kindness, be kind. If you want understanding, be understanding. And, if you want to achieve your goals, don’t let anything or anybody get in your way.

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Who Is Responsible For Why My life Is Not Where I Want It To Be?

Do you ever think about who is responsible for where you are in life? If so, get a mirror. Do you ever wonder why you are in a job that does not fulfill you? If so get a mirror. Have you ever considered the reason that happiness eludes you? Again, go look into the nearest mirror.

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There are always reasons and excuses as to why we were passed up for the promotion, why our partner left us, and why we aren’t where we would truly like to be at this time in our lives. Life after all isn’t always fair.

However, I firmly believe that we all have the ability to chart our own destiny. Unless there is a gun to your back it is you who controls your words, your actions, and your decision-making.

We have become a society that loves to blame everyone for the unfairness that has befallen us…our parents, the schools, the establishment and on it goes.

Life is a series of choices and lessons. Dr. Phil is famous for saying that, “You can’t change what you don’t acknowledge”. So, the next time you wonder who is responsible for your life, go find the nearest mirror and take a hard look at the person staring back at you. Is this person honest with himself or herself? Is this a person with whom you would like to be friends? Is this a person that you respect?

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Get to really know yourself. Learn what makes you tick. Pay attention to your behavior in all situations. Make those changes that you feel need to be made. Hold yourself up to a standard that makes you feel proud of yourself. Learn to accept your shortcomings and take responsibility for your actions.

In my upcoming book, 12 Ways to Discover What Makes You Tick, I address subjects that include among others, facing your fears and conquering your demons. I talk about listening to your inner voice. I give examples and exercises to help guide you to feel confident that you have so much more control over your life than you think.

I encourage you to subscribe to my website and take the time to watch my videos and read my blogs. We all have challenges. We all have insecurities. AND, we all have the ability to improve ourselves, our lives and ultimately find the happiness that seems to elude so many.

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Checking In With Yourself

This might seem like a strange thing to do, however, I believe it is important.  Many of us make promises, resolutions and lists of things we want to do every January 1st.
 
 
It is hard to believe that we are approaching the middle of the year already.  The most common complaint I hear is, “Where has this year gone?”  It seems as if we begin the New Year and the next thing we know, it is summer.  Then, before we have a chance to think about it, we are getting ready for the fall and winter holidays.
So, back to my question of checking in with yourself.  Just how are you doing with all the things you were going to do this year?  Lose that extra five pounds?  Go back to school to finish your degree?  Clean out your garage and have a garage sale?
It is very easy to get caught up in the day-to-day minutia of life.  We live in a very busy and demanding world.  Work, school, children, family, friends and oh yes, sleep, tend to keep us from focusing on what we thought seemed so important a mere 6 months ago.
So take some time and think about the things you wanted to do for yourself.  For others.  In case you didn’t know this, you are allowed to make resolutions to do better and be better, even though a new year won’t be starting for another 6 months.

Something to think about.