Another New Year!

Here we are, settling into 2018. How are those New Year’s Resolutions going? The top five according to the Nielsen survey are:

  1. Stay fit and healthy
  2. Lose Weight
  3. Enjoy life to the fullest
  4. Spend less, save more
  5. Spend more time with family and friends

In the top 10: Do NOT make any more New Year’s resolutions.

According to commonly cited statistics, only 8 percent actually keep their New Year’s resolutions which would explain why many people stop making them. We seem doomed to fail because we make too many, most are unrealistic, small failures cause us to quit and so on.

My personal take on why resolutions fail is because we really don’t take the time to understand why we choose the resolutions in the first place. Most obvious to me is because these are challenges and issues that we can’t seem to adapt to an everyday lifestyle. So once a year we make a promise to conquer our personal challenges and demons, thinking magically a new day, month and year will be the answer.

In order to truly make changes that are sustainable, it is crucial to look at ourselves and fully understand why we do the things we do. Food can comfort, alcohol can numb, and exercising is work and commitment. I guess the question becomes, “What do we like and what do we want?” When looking at a donut you might say, “I’d like to eat this donut, but I want to lose weight.” If that donut gets consumed you actually wanted the donut however would have liked to lose weight. Think about this.



The choices we make are truly the ones we want. So how do we get what we want, not simply what we’d like? My opinion has always been balance.



Habits can be changed. Attitudes can be altered. Most DO NOT come easily. Being mindful of why we make our choices is key. Hold up that mirror, stop the action, remind yourself of your goals, and be realistic. Most people did not gain weight overnight, therefore it won’t be lost overnight. Most people did not get into financial debt overnight therefore it can’t be fixed overnight.

Whether finishing a project around the house or altering your own behavior, take baby steps. My sister-in-law wanted to take her family on vacation when they were young and broke. Each time her family wanted to go out to eat, she prepared the meal at home. Purchases were made at discount stores often using coupons. The money she saved was then put into a large can. Within a year, she had saved enough money to take her family of four on a vacation to Hawaii. Her married daughter recently told her that this practice of saving money is alive and well in her own home today.

Many of us have imagination and are creative. Find ways to get achieve your goals. If you slip don’t say, “Oh well, I’ll start again next year.” There is nothing magical about a new year. It is simply a day or moment.

In my book, “12 Ways To Discover What Makes You Tick” I lovingly guide my readers to get to know themselves in ways they might have not previously done. I believe until we really know why we do what we do, it is virtually impossible to affect change.


You have one life. You have one body. Work on being the best version of yourself. I believe you will enjoy the benefits of starting and finishing goals that have previously eluded you.

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Standing Up For Yourself

In my book, 12 Ways To Discover What Makes You Tick”, there is a chapter called Standing Up For Yourself. Many in my circle have suggested that I re-read it, along with a couple of other chapters and several of my blogs, namely Listen To Your Inner Voice and Honor Yourself.

During the past year or so I have been faced with challenges that have contributed to my feeling like a victim. Victims can be victimized over-and-over simply by not taking a stand. Years after being bullied, taken advantage of, manipulated or scammed, is it difficult to move on because you did not take measures to stand up for yourself?

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There are many avenues available that can help empower us to get past the injustices. First, acknowledge that victims have a right to be heard. Next, formulate a plan and follow through. Depending on the circumstances, this could be to contact the person and tell them how they made you feel, or write a letter and either mail it or throw it away. Many times merely putting the words on paper is good enough.

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There are times however when you will want to seek more extreme measures. This could involve presenting your case in court. I have always been a fan of the saying, “All evil needs to exist is for good men to do nothing”. Don’t make excuses thinking, “this is just too hard” or “perhaps a judgment won’t go my way”. No matter the outcome, sometimes it is good enough to simply have your day in court.


Life is a series of experiences. There are ups and downs and curve balls thrown our way. We are all faced with them. It isn’t a matter of “if”, but a matter of “when.” The difference between those people who let life get them down and those who get up and persevere is how they handle whatever is put in their path.

Standing up for yourself is your right. Don’t question it or doubt yourself. Accept that bullies can only exist if they are allowed to continue to torment their victims!

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My dad was a man of many expressions. We have this in common. Lately I have been thinking of two that he frequently used. One was, “When Mike says something you can take it to the bank.” The other was, “When Ben shakes my hand I have to count my fingers.”


When you tell someone they can count on you, can they? When you give your word that you will pay back a loan, do you, or do they have to chase you for repayment? When you offer to help someone work on a project, do you show up, or do they have to call you to remind you when to come over?   Do your friends eventually give up on you when they realize your word means nothing?

Some people have intentions to honor their words. Others seem to say what they think someone else wants to hear. And yet others find it easier to say yes now and make up excuses later. If you fall into these categories and you think other people are fooled, think again. It doesn’t take long for someone to learn who is trustworthy.

I believe there are many things we can’t control in our world. One of the things we can control is what comes out of our mouth. Unless someone is holding a gun to your head, you are responsible for your words.


Another expression I heard while growing up is, “If you can count on one hand the real friends you have you are lucky.” Decades later I still don’t understand why there are so few people that honor their word and commitments.

When you look at your friends do you know who will be there for you? When your friends look at you do they consider you trustworthy?

For me, I’d like to think my friends and family find me reliable. If I say I will be there, they know I will. We all have expectations regarding the definition of a good friend.   After all, not everyone has the same standards.

When it comes down to it, ‘our word is our bond’. Although this is an old-fashioned expression the meaning is contemporary, as you are assuring someone that your promise will be kept. Isn’t that, after all, what you would expect from others? In researching the top values most parents want to pass along to their children, commitment and belief in others are at the top of the list.

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Children learn not from our words, but from our actions. Think about this the next time you make a promise. Integrity and honoring our commitments should be the standard, NOT the exception. What do you think?

Make 2017 the year to make positive changes by becoming someone that you respect and would choose for a friend!

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Life Coach

Do you find yourself unable to move forward with your life simply because you can’t imagine how to crawl out from under the weight of your present situation?

A Life Coach may be your answer, not necessarily a therapist, attorney or financial adviser. The job of a life coach is to work with you while guiding you to understand and ultimately work through the challenges that prevent you from completing your immediate or long term goals.

My qualifications include the following:

  • I am a published author of the book, 12 Ways To Discover What Makes You Tick.
  • I have authored the instructional manual, How To Avoid Losing a Loved One Due To a Senseless Fight.
  • I have written over 150 inspirational blogs.
  • I have created 36 motivational You Tube Videos.
  • I have received glowing endorsements from psychiatrists and psychologists from major institutions.
  • I have counseled numerous clients with their interpersonal problems with an amazing success rate.
  • I work with young students as well as those in the third chapter of their lives.

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Roni Kugler


Why Would I Buy A Book About Me?

Life is a gift. It is fragile and it is short. Take the time to know yourself. We spend much of our early life in school learning to read, conquer math and study history.

We then learn a job, how to maintain our car, operate our electronic devices and various other tasks required to get along in our world.


How much time do you take to really get to know yourself? To understand how you ‘tick’? Along with knowing yourself, how much time do you take to really understand others and learn how they ‘tick’? Perhaps if you make this an integral part of your life, you will learn from both your successes and your failures. You will become more aware, and understand why you repeat your mistakes without taking responsibility for some of your choices.

I have found that if you take time to really get to know yourself and the world in which you live, your life will be more fulfilling and give you the happiness and peace that you truly want and deserve.

For a small investment, my book, 12 Ways To Discover What Makes You Tick, could be just what you need to start the journey towards making decisions that you can feel good about.

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Isn’t it time you invested in yourself?

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How Can I Motivate Myself?

Another year has begun and just a few weeks into it I wonder how many people have made resolutions. I also wonder how many resolutions have been broken.




Why is it so difficult to make a plan and then stick to it? Some reasons could be the plan could be unrealistic. Or although a person feels they should make changes, in reality they really don’t want to. Or perhaps they simply don’t want to do the work needed to make the necessary changes.

Whatever the reasons, history has pretty much shown that real change comes from slowly altering behavior. It is crucial to then reinforce it until the new behavior becomes the norm and NOT the exception.

My sister-in-law Nancy just got a fit bit (This is a device worn on the wrist that tracks a person’s steps throughout the day.) I have worn one for several months. I am a bit shy of the goals I have set for myself, and I tend to have problems motivating myself to do more. With the challenge from Nancy, I now find myself walking those extra steps and taking the time to work out. The reason: I know she can look at my progress and I can see hers. Yes, I accepted the challenge.

Recently I mentioned to a friend that I was starting to walk the treadmill. After we talked, she became motivated and has started working out. We go to the gym together and we go alone. We have given each other that much needed extra boost.


Peer pressure has often been looked upon as negative: drinking, smoking bad behavior is demonstrated when following the wrong people. Peer pressure can be beneficial when we observe those around us doing healthy and positive things for themselves. Hopefully it motivates us be our best selves.

So whether you want to drop a few pounds, clean out your closets, go back to school or change your career, determine what motivates you. Consider joining a class with a friend. Ask a family member to help jump-start you regarding a chore. Offer to donate time to help someone you know who could use the support.

My dad used to say, “Misery loves company”, so get a buddy involved. Don’t wait for a magical date or day to make improvements in your life. Call a friend and make a plan. Chances are, if you agree to meet with someone you will actually show up.


As far as my sister-in-law who takes more steps before I get out of bed is concerned, I don’t plan on competing with her. What I plan on doing is giving each day my best effort. This way I don’t set myself up for failure.

My parting thoughts: Be realistic about your goals; don’t let a bad day define your objectives, and remember these are things you have decided are important to you. Think about that.

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Do New Year Resolutions Really Work?

Before summer even ended, I noticed that stores had already put up displays for Halloween and Thanksgiving. Now, barely into October, I see advertisements for Christmas. No wonder the months and years fly by.


This got me thinking about all of the people who plan on waiting until the first of January to implement the New Year resolutions that they have put off for yet another year. The diet. More exercise. Cleaning out the garage. Going back to school. Being nicer. Volunteering time at shelters. And so the list continues.

I found myself going over a blog that I wrote two years ago on this very subject. It dawned on me that making and then breaking, New Year resolutions is actually a lifestyle. Those who truly make the changes they desire in their lives really don’t need a magical date. The ones who actually achieve their goals do it quietly by making small and large changes on a daily basis throughout the year.

Is there a reason you are putting off your dreams and wishes for another two and a half months? If you can relate to the following blog that I wrote over two years ago and you are laughing, I challenge you to start today. Make a list of the things you would like to change. Hold up a mirror and ask yourself what it will take to attain your goals. Then find a way to make it happen.

I published the following blog in December, 2013.

The accepted definition of insanity is ‘doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result”. I would venture to say that if this were really true, we would all fall under the insanity definition at some point in our lives.

I consider myself relatively rational, pretty much grounded, fairly pragmatic, understanding and for the most part accepting of other people’s points of views and visions.

To my friends who are now screaming, “ARE YOU KIDDING”? I did use words like ‘relatively’, ‘fairly’, and, ‘for the most part’.

So, with this in mind, I do have to wonder why year after year and decade after decade I hear the same promises, and New Year resolutions from the people in my life. To say that I am not guilty of this myself would not be entirely truthful.

I haven’t always known what is good for me, but I have pretty much always known what isn’t. I haven’t always known what works for me, but I have pretty much always known what doesn’t.

So my thoughts at this moment as I look at the end of yet another year and the beginning of a new one are: 

  1. What changes will I make?
  2. What will I continue to put up with?
  3. And what will next year bring to my family, my friends and me?

As another year now comes to an end may your hopes stay high and your dreams be realized. If you want kindness, be kind. If you want understanding, be understanding. And, if you want to achieve your goals, don’t let anything or anybody get in your way.


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Who Is Responsible For Why My life Is Not Where I Want It To Be?

Do you ever think about who is responsible for where you are in life? If so, get a mirror. Do you ever wonder why you are in a job that does not fulfill you? If so get a mirror. Have you ever considered the reason that happiness eludes you? Again, go look into the nearest mirror.

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Woman looking in to the mirror


There are always reasons and excuses as to why we were passed up for the promotion, why our partner left us, and why we aren’t where we would truly like to be at this time in our lives. Life after all isn’t always fair.

However, I firmly believe that we all have the ability to chart our own destiny. Unless there is a gun to your back it is you who controls your words, your actions, and your decision-making.

We have become a society that loves to blame everyone for the unfairness that has befallen us…our parents, the schools, the establishment and on it goes.

Life is a series of choices and lessons. Dr. Phil is famous for saying that, “You can’t change what you don’t acknowledge”. So, the next time you wonder who is responsible for your life, go find the nearest mirror and take a hard look at the person staring back at you. Is this person honest with himself or herself? Is this a person with whom you would like to be friends? Is this a person that you respect?


Get to really know yourself. Learn what makes you tick. Pay attention to your behavior in all situations. Make those changes that you feel need to be made. Hold yourself up to a standard that makes you feel proud of yourself. Learn to accept your shortcomings and take responsibility for your actions.

In my upcoming book, 12 Ways to Discover What Makes You Tick, I address subjects that include among others, facing your fears and conquering your demons. I talk about listening to your inner voice. I give examples and exercises to help guide you to feel confident that you have so much more control over your life than you think.

I encourage you to subscribe to my website and take the time to watch my videos and read my blogs. We all have challenges. We all have insecurities. AND, we all have the ability to improve ourselves, our lives and ultimately find the happiness that seems to elude so many.

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Checking In With Yourself

This might seem like a strange thing to do, however, I believe it is important.  Many of us make promises, resolutions and lists of things we want to do every January 1st.
It is hard to believe that we are approaching the middle of the year already.  The most common complaint I hear is, “Where has this year gone?”  It seems as if we begin the New Year and the next thing we know, it is summer.  Then, before we have a chance to think about it, we are getting ready for the fall and winter holidays.
So, back to my question of checking in with yourself.  Just how are you doing with all the things you were going to do this year?  Lose that extra five pounds?  Go back to school to finish your degree?  Clean out your garage and have a garage sale?
It is very easy to get caught up in the day-to-day minutia of life.  We live in a very busy and demanding world.  Work, school, children, family, friends and oh yes, sleep, tend to keep us from focusing on what we thought seemed so important a mere 6 months ago.
So take some time and think about the things you wanted to do for yourself.  For others.  In case you didn’t know this, you are allowed to make resolutions to do better and be better, even though a new year won’t be starting for another 6 months.

Something to think about.