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Collective Voices

I have always admired people who take a stand when they have been victimized. I have always wondered why so many people speak up ONLY after a group has paved the way. On some level I understand the fear of not being believed. There is no question that fighting an institution or system is (at best) time consuming and frustrating. Whether it is the church, gymnastic coaches, or powerful people in positions of authority, it is NOT OKAY to manipulate, threaten, or blackball simply because you can.

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Taking this a step further, what about the ordinary person who has been scammed? What about the spouse whose partner cashed in the insurance policies to gamble? What about the friend who borrowed money? These people should also be called out and held accountable for their actions.

There was a time in our history when people who committed crimes wore a sign around their necks for everyone to see. Public shaming was part of letting others know not to be fooled by these people. There was a famous deli in New York in the 50’s that many movie stars frequented. These stars felt they were above paying for their bill. After the owner tried countless times to collect his money, he chose to put a sign in the window with the names and amounts owed for everyone to see. It did NOT take long for these accounts to be paid off.

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Why is it commonplace for victims to keep the names of their tormentors a secret? Why aren’t we using social media and word of mouth so others are NOT put in the same position? People who molest children or rape women have histories of repeat offenses. Perhaps if more people spoke up sooner and louder, others would be saved similar fates.

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Personally, I think we all need to be good stewards of our friends, family, neighbors and society in general. Let’s stop passively allowing others to continue victimizing simply because it could be unpleasant to take the necessary steps to expose their behavior. I am a firm believer that all evil needs to prevail is for good men and women to do nothing!

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Standing Up For Yourself

In my book, 12 Ways To Discover What Makes You Tick”, there is a chapter called Standing Up For Yourself. Many in my circle have suggested that I re-read it, along with a couple of other chapters and several of my blogs, namely Listen To Your Inner Voice and Honor Yourself.

During the past year or so I have been faced with challenges that have contributed to my feeling like a victim. Victims can be victimized over-and-over simply by not taking a stand. Years after being bullied, taken advantage of, manipulated or scammed, is it difficult to move on because you did not take measures to stand up for yourself?

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There are many avenues available that can help empower us to get past the injustices. First, acknowledge that victims have a right to be heard. Next, formulate a plan and follow through. Depending on the circumstances, this could be to contact the person and tell them how they made you feel, or write a letter and either mail it or throw it away. Many times merely putting the words on paper is good enough.

Photo of the Constitution of the United States of America. A feather quill is included in the photo.The Constitution of the United States is the supreme law of the United States of America and is the oldest codified written national constitution still in force. It was completed on September 17, 1787.

There are times however when you will want to seek more extreme measures. This could involve presenting your case in court. I have always been a fan of the saying, “All evil needs to exist is for good men to do nothing”. Don’t make excuses thinking, “this is just too hard” or “perhaps a judgment won’t go my way”. No matter the outcome, sometimes it is good enough to simply have your day in court.

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Life is a series of experiences. There are ups and downs and curve balls thrown our way. We are all faced with them. It isn’t a matter of “if”, but a matter of “when.” The difference between those people who let life get them down and those who get up and persevere is how they handle whatever is put in their path.

Standing up for yourself is your right. Don’t question it or doubt yourself. Accept that bullies can only exist if they are allowed to continue to torment their victims!

In My book, 12 Ways To Discover What Makes You Tick I address several of the subjects I discuss in this blog. Use this convenient link to buy it or go directly to Amazon to get your copy of my book: http://amzn.to/1T2u4sr

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HOW IMPORTANT IS YOUR INNER-VOICE?

The first chapter in my book, 12 Ways To Discover What Makes You Tick, is called Listen To Your Inner-voice. I have decided to dedicate a blog to this subject for those who have not read my book, do not know what their inner-voice is or those who need to be reminded of the importance of their inner-voice.

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Everyone has an inner-voice, however; we all experience different clues when it comes down to it. For some it is a feeling that something seems wrong. For others our hearts may race a bit, our fingers may tingle, or we just might feel uncomfortable.   Still others have a hard time swallowing or their stomach may feel queasy. Some people use the term, “I feel it in my gut”, or “I have this nagging feeling”. Learn to pay attention to your body; it is an integral part of our senses as are sight, hearing and taste.

No matter what your personal signs are, it is NOT in your best interest to ignore them. When deciding on a job, an investment, a relationship or even buying a new car, listening to your inner-voice will give you the edge when making decisions.

For those who aren’t even sure what their inner-voice is, I suggest here and in my book to really pay attention to your body, not just your eyes and mind, when faced with a choice. Really feel what is going on with you. I once went car shopping with a friend and my first instinct was to buy a car that was too expensive, not practical and just a poor decision. My friend, knowing this was NOT the car for me (as she wasn’t emotionally vested) had to drag me out of the dealership with pen in hand, to take a long walk and grab some coffee.

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Bottom line: I DID NOT buy the car. Although I saw all the red flags at the time, I would have ignored them in the moment. Once I was able to get a clear picture with time and distance, I made a much better choice.

Although it took a friend to help me this time, going forward I have since learned over the years to be my own best advocate. I never bought a car again without using all my senses in making my decision.

As in my book, 12 Ways To Discover What Makes You Tick, I advise you to really pay attention to your personal inner-voice. This is easier than you think. Next time you are faced with a decision, no matter how small, take a moment or two to clear your mind and pay attention to your body. If you continue to be mindful of small clues going on inside you, you will be inclined to make better choices.

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If it turns out that you ignore your inner-voice and make a decision or two that you regret, don’t beat yourself up; learn from it. Wisdom isn’t achieved by NEVER making mistakes. Wisdom is attained when you learn from your mistakes.

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