What Does Being Authentic Mean?

This is a subject that I am almost obsessed with. What exactly does it mean? For me, it means acting on the outside how I feel on the inside. Or, one could say, being true to myself.

When I was just 14 and getting ready to go on my first ‘real’ date, a family friend gave me advice that stays with me decades later.

We were sitting in my backyard and I looked troubled. He asked me what was bothering me. I told him I was going on my first date with a boy I liked and I wasn’t sure how to act and how to be.


He simply said, “Be yourself. If you stay true to who you are, you will not have to worry about who you tried to be or who you tried to act like.” I took his advice. Then and since.

It was never my goal to have everyone like me. I never changed my behavior to please someone else. I understood that some people would want to be my friend because of my humor, personality and values, and some would not, for the very same reasons.

I think too many people worry about being liked. I think too many people tell others not what they feel, but what they think they should say.

I believe we are all special in many ways. We have different talents, different opinions and different ways of doing things.

Perhaps if we could learn to celebrate our differences instead of trying to be like everyone else, we would be more comfortable. After all, it is our differences that makes the world a more interesting place.  Being authentic means being real.


My dad’s friend Bernie died many decades ago, yet to this day his advice to my teenage self gave me a lifetime lesson that has served me well.

Hopefully his advice will be something that has value to you, also.

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5 thoughts on “What Does Being Authentic Mean?

  1. Kat says:

    Hi Roni
    I totally agree. I never tried to be anyone but me.
    How’s you hand???

  2. Kat says:

    Hi Roni
    I totally agree. I never tried to be anyone but me.
    How’s you hand???

  3. Sandra Nash says:

    Hi Roni
    By being true to myself I have discovered many life ling friends and a few people that didn’t like me at all. Ironically, those people also confirmed that I am exactly who I should be and their opinion really didn’t affect me. in fact, it probably had nothing to do with me!
    Have a terrific day!

  4. Larry says:

    Thing I loved the best about you was that you were NOT a phony ! Like myself it does please all the people all the time > But really who care I love me that’s what counts if you don’t want to hear the truth DON’T ask me!

  5. Roni says:

    When you try to please everyone you end up pleasing no one. Some will like us because of the things we do and say. Some won’t. I find it sad when people act and say things just to be liked. I would prefer to be authentic and honest and have one true friend, then to be phony and not real and have hundreds.

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